Below is a comparison of the three most commonly chosen paths for divorce proceedings. Through this comparison, it is clear why mediation is the most preferable and sensible way to divorce.
If you have ever had conversation with anyone who has litigated a divorce or if you've seen a friend or family member go through the process, then you understand why litigation is the most destructive means to divorce. People who have been through the litigation process often describe it as "dehumanizing," "a nightmare," "unjust and unfair," "traumatizing for us and our children."
There is nothing good to say about litigation:
Cost - When litigated, the average divorce costs $60,000 per couple with many easily exceeding $100,000.
Time - It can take a year or more for your divorce to be finalized from the day you initially consult with an attorney.
Relationships - Litigation is an adversarial process which leads to the destruction of relationships. The court process often destroys any good will between the parties and leaves children feeling as though they are caught in the middle.
Control - In a litigated divorce, your life is in the hands of attorneys and the Court.
In a collaborative divorce, both parties retain an attorney who has been trained in collaborative law to negotiate the terms of the divorce outside of the courtroom. All negotiations take place with both parties and their attorneys present.
Collaborative divorce is not necessarily what it appears to be:
Mediation is the least expensive, time efficient and most dignified means to divorce. Divorce in and of itself is a very difficult and challenging time for families. Mediation affords couples the opportunity to maintain control over decisions so they can get through the divorce without losing themselves to the process.
Mediation is the most preferable option:
Avoid the Costs of Litigation and Mediate Now!
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